Don't let the world become a living hell!

Our world would have been a much better place, had we not forgotten why God made us different from the other beings and positioned us as the “Master of all creatures”. We were given this edge over others, so that we can think for our own betterment as well as others’, what the animals can’t. What we ended up doing is, harming our own species as much as harming the others.

We do not need to experience hell post death, for we have well turned our world into a living example of the same. We won’t ever stop playing the blame game for it, but what is undeniably true is that we all have equally contributed to it. In fact, ironically we do express the same without realizing it. For example, while paying condolence over someone’s death, we add these words while sympathizing that- “May their soul rest in peace, for they have been freed from the shackles and the miseries of life”. That means we agree that this world is a cruel and miserable place to live in. How conclusively we have drifted the beautiful nature created by the almighty, into the soup of despair.

It is tiring and distressing, to have that daily dose of gloomy news, about brutal crimes that throw the victim’s life mentally, physically, emotionally or socially out of order. What doesn’t make sense is that sometimes, the most heinous crimes are over matters as little as over-taking a vehicle on the road. What is wrong with us humans?  Why have we given away our reasoning power and are taking decisions with our impulsive nerve? Is there no value of a human life in our eyes?  We cannot personally dispense justice to anyone but, what we can do on our part is to prevent ourselves and other near ones from falling prey to someone’s frustrated and drained logic. To bring about a change, we need to start monitoring ourselves and our temperament and avoid being a victim of hastiness. If each of us does that, a change is not far away. 

Expectations hurt not when they arise, but when they become filmy!

Most of our expectations, especially the ones associated with social and emotional relations, are derived from the close watch we keep on our surroundings, our sources of information and most importantly the movies we watch. Admit it or not, somewhere in the back of our reason or more commonly the subconscious mind, we do dream of or admire the beauty of the built up scenario we see, where friendship, love, surprises, fulfillment, contentment, etc., are so flawlessly portrayed that we fall in the trap of expecting the same for ourselves in real life. What follows is a herd of expectations that remain unfulfilled or under fulfilled.

While it is definitely important and a natural tendency to expect from every relation, it is also important to keep a tab on our expectations before they become unrealistic. What appears beautiful on screen is highly superficial and far from reality. Your friends may not turn the world upside down for you, but may still love you with all their heart. Your love may not bring the happiness of the whole world under your feet, or shower you with surprises every now and then, but their presence can bring you incomparable happiness. Likewise, your parents may not be able to provide you with all the luxuries and enviable lifestyle, but will stand with you in every damn phase of your life. Yes, if you don’t get even this much, you have a right to complain.

The ultra cool parent-child bond, the die-for-you friendships, the eternal love, the relations one feels too special about is highly subjective. Those who get it get a cherry on the cake; those who don’t, spend their lives vying for it and in sheer disappointment. To avoid all this it is therefore necessary to broaden your desires, up to the extent of what is possible for your near ones to accomplish. It is a sad reality, no doubt, but fighting with your own self over the dilemma of whether to expect or not, is better dodged by expecting in a defined limit. 

Have you made a resolution of going near to the almighty?

Hi people, first of all, apologies for the late wishes. A very happy new year to all of you!

It is indeed a refreshing time period, with lots of resolutions and determinations ringing in our minds. All sorts of make-self promises including, workout, find love, find a job, fix a home, date some more, get married and so on, fall in the category of worldly desires and fortunes. It gives contentment to our body, mind, social setup, etc. But what remains unnoticed and disregarded in the whole chaos of fulfilling the superficial wants, is the desire of the soul. We hardly bring about any resolutions that satisfy the little fraction of the almighty that resides within us, do we?

Now, the basic question that arises is; what is the need of the soul? Does it really need something to gratify it? Yes, it does. A constant communication with the God is what it needs. Just like a communication gap with our dear ones, leaves us deficient in life; similarly, being distant from its source leaves our soul lifeless.

But, we hardly care to invest some time for the cure of it. It is often the most difficult thing to do. We have time for all those things that we prioritize personally, but for the thing that prioritizes us or is for our own goodness. Why not take up a resolution to build a nice rapport and direct link with the almighty, which does not require a device or a setup but just a compassionate heart and meditation of an open soul? With each passing year this bond will increase and ultimately echoes back in the form of happiness.

Worth trying, isn’t it? :)

Believe in the power of “NO”, to be happy

Though considered a negative word in general context, a “no” certainly has a positive side to it which needs to be looked upon deeply.  It takes a bit of effort to realize, how this two –letter word can make a huge difference, in our lives. It has the power to define our happiness or sadness, and can save us from embarrassments & regrets, later. Let us once, not consider it rude or impolite, but a handy solution, to a number of problems.  If you have ever sat down and lamented, over the guilt of not being able to amend, a wrong decision in past, where a “no” was a reliable solution, it is your time to reconsider its importance.

There are a hundreds of situations, in a professional environment, in a peer group, at home, or any sphere of life, where we avoid saying a “no”, due to the fear of hurting or disappointing our folks at that moment. We need to understand and let go, this fear if we do not want to leave ourselves disappointed, for the entire life. Do not think twice before denying someone over something, if your inner voice tells you to do, as you won’t be put behind bars for it. It will make you feel lighter in the long run and will also give others around you, a clear picture of what you disapprove of, and not compel you for it, the next time.

 It is therefore, important to learn from the mistakes of the past, and not let your own self, hamper your bliss; by shying away from admitting what you want. Do not let anything overrule your individuality and abilities to decide what to do, and what not to, as this hugely affects your self-esteem. Thus, the ultimate goal is to confidently act upon this “No”, whenever it is the call of the hour.