Most of our expectations, especially the ones associated
with social and emotional relations, are derived from the close watch we keep
on our surroundings, our sources of information and most importantly the movies
we watch. Admit it or not, somewhere in the back of our reason or more commonly
the subconscious mind, we do dream of or admire the beauty of the built up
scenario we see, where friendship, love, surprises, fulfillment, contentment,
etc., are so flawlessly portrayed that we fall in the trap of expecting the
same for ourselves in real life. What follows is a herd of expectations that
remain unfulfilled or under fulfilled.
While it is definitely important and a natural tendency to
expect from every relation, it is also important to keep a tab on our
expectations before they become unrealistic. What appears beautiful on screen
is highly superficial and far from reality. Your friends may not turn the world
upside down for you, but may still love you with all their heart. Your love may
not bring the happiness of the whole world under your feet, or shower you with
surprises every now and then, but their presence can bring you incomparable
happiness. Likewise, your parents may not be able to provide you with all the
luxuries and enviable lifestyle, but will stand with you in every damn phase of
your life. Yes, if you don’t get even this much, you have a right to complain.
The ultra cool parent-child bond, the die-for-you
friendships, the eternal love, the relations one feels too special about is
highly subjective. Those who get it get a cherry on the cake; those who don’t,
spend their lives vying for it and in sheer disappointment. To avoid all this
it is therefore necessary to broaden your desires, up to the extent of what is
possible for your near ones to accomplish. It is a sad reality, no doubt, but
fighting with your own self over the dilemma of whether to expect or not, is
better dodged by expecting in a defined limit.
Agree ..!
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